Saturday, December 29, 2018

SMART REHABILITATION


SMART REHABILITATION


 

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    ---We think we made a viable case for NOT being DEPRIVED of the necessities of life – being valued, being appreciated, cared for, loved, etc. We know that people do far better in life when they get these needs met. When they are deprived of these fundamental human needs they end up being DEPRAVED (negative) in some way. We assume the physiological needs of food, clothing and shelter are being taken care of.

---When people feel depraved and negative inside, they try to change that feeling. They deal with this situation by involving themselves in something that serves to ease the distress that they are feeling. The only thing that makes a difference and will make things right is something that creates the love and appreciation, being valued, etc., that is needed. Only these things will serve to make the pain better...in the long run. If he/she hits on things that are needed, than a positive boost will be experienced. If he/she heads toward things that increases self-acceptance...than those things will keep him/her on track.

---If what is done runs away from facing the self then the negatives will be experienced. The negatives come into play when one runs from facing himself. He is now NOT getting his needs met.  The ADDICTION is being born at this point. It will be stopped when he/she faces him/herself. He will identify the need and he will meet it. We wish to rehabilitate the whole-person and not just the half-hearted, band aid on cancer rehab that we have been seeing. To rehab the whole person, we should increase his/her self-esteem, his/her self worth, etc. We have to help him/her find a good reason to say NO...and NOT become re-addicted. He/she has to be convinced that there is a good enough reason to say NO...so, he/she has NO need to run. It seems that people have to realize it is worth staying sober. It is better that they are NOT always under the influence.

---Facing up to the fact that I have one hand was the same thing for me. Believe me...if I could face things I didn't like about myself, you can do it TOO. As I said, ''it isn't necessarily going to be easy, but it is possible.''

---However, if an emptiness is there, then we still have a problem. There is something NOT being faced. He or she will feel a hole within that still needs to be filled. As we said, this emptiness can only be filled by the right stuff. The correct stuff that is necessary would be whatever makes him/her fulfilled for a long period. It's important to be honest…otherwise the emptiness is still there and needs to be filled. For me it was my left-hand, but for someone else it, probably, is something else. What I did realize is that we all seem to have a negative attitude about something about ourselves that we are NOT cool with. Acceptance in this area would NOT be a bad thing and would open the door for getting the needs met.




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 ---When we are DEPRIVED of things that we need…that’s when the heartaches begin. We spend much of our time trying to do what is necessary to get these needs met. The more DEPRIVED we are is reflected in how DEPRAVED (NEGATIVE) we are feeling and acting. What I needed existed on the other side of the door. It became the Door of HONESTY. When I told others how I felt about my hand, etc., that is when I began filling in the emptiness about my own situation. I stopped DEPRIVING myself with this newly found honesty about the things that were real in my life and how I really felt. I began to accept myself allowing myself to experience many, more of the good things of life. To be loved, cared for, appreciated, valued, etc. As I said, if I can do it, you can do it.

---Anytime one is not being honest about himself and NOT learning to accept him or herself will still leave him/herself wanting and unfulfilled (DEPRIVED and EMPTY.) He/she will find that he will be making decisions that attempt to create situations that will try to get those needs met in order to feel fulfilled.

---SMART REHABILITATION happens when the patient   embodies the understanding that those experiences that he or she is feeling - valued, appreciated, loved, cared for, etc...are real. He or she is convinced that these NOW exist for him or her as they never did before. Things are different now. They are very real and this is now the way it is.  A complete 180 degree turn is NOT uncommon, eventually.

---SMART REHABILITATION works on helping the patient learn new techniques to feel more valued and appreciated. The patient is taught ways to make better decisions. The patient is encouraged to stand on his own. He or she is given new tools that help to bring clarity to his vision and see things clearly to be able to better negotiate his way through life. He is now assured enough so he/she can rely on him/herself to get what he/she needs. He now has the kind of tools to live a very satisfying non-addicted life. The sky really is the limit. Any limits have always been imposed by him or herself. Mediocrity is always a choice if that’s what is wanted. BUT, now It is NO LONGER something you’re required to settle for. Be Well.

WHEN THINGS ARE RIGHT...THE PATIENT FEELS WHOLE WITHOUT HIS ADDICTION. HE or SHE LEARNS THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO ENJOY LIFE WITHOUT THE ADDICTION!


WHEN THE NEEDS OF THE PATIENT ARE MET, THEN HE DOES MUCH BETTER!



---This a draft. I reserve the right to make changes as I see fitting.

Monday, December 24, 2018

Saturday, November 24, 2018

ADDING VALUE. pdf

ADDING VALUE TO PEOPLE.pdf (CLICK)

---There is much material covered here.




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Saturday, November 3, 2018

HOW TO BE AT HOME WITH YOURSELF?

MASLOW-TYPE THINKING on
HOMELESS vs HOUSELESS



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---I think a distinction has to be made of the two. A ‘’house’’ is a shelter, a structure…built by the hands. A heart builds a ‘’home.’’ A HOME is denoted by that warm, fuzzy, comfortable feeling you get where your significant others have let you know that they understand you...BUT/AND, accept you anyway. The place where you feel wanted, cared for and fulfilled. There is an UNCONDITIONAL feeling going on. The kind of situation that is safe and secure that can be BEST characterized by the knowing that the cake has just been frosted. 

---If you don’t have OR never have had OR don’t have a clue to what I’m referring to…than you have ALWAYs been HOMELESS from my perspective. I know that some relate to this. I know that some DO NOT. In my estimation, those terms have been confused for a very long time.

---What, also, makes things difficult at this point in time is the fact that those who are presently in charge of things have been deprived at an important developmental time in their own lives and a depravity (negativity) has taken over. Though, having much money, it shows that they have been deprived of what is needed for successful give + take relationships. It seems they were never valued properly. They were, also, never appreciated in the correct way. Love, support, security, etc., went haywire in some sense. Money was, probably, used in the place of what is really important! 



---Money and material goods will NEVER successfully replace the intangible benefits that love, etc., provides. Read below the relationship of DEPRIVED + DEPRAVED and see for yourself how it fits. The ''feeling that everything is alright with the world,'' would be replaced with the feeling you get when your significant other lets you know that he/she cares deeply for you or something of that nature.

---HANDs BUILD a HOUSE, but a HEART BUILDs a HOME. If that makes sense, then we are on the same page.

---Some people are more at home with themselves than others are. They bring their home with them everywhere they go. Some (many) do not.

---The more that one knows himself usually designates the degree to which someone is HOMELESS. If someone is truly comfortable with himself, he or she is usually considered to be at home with himself. If he or she is NOT comfortable with him or herself than ‘’Houston, we have a problem…OR, better yet – The HOMELESS PROBLEM.’’

---We somehow think that the solution to the HOMELESS PROBLEM is to build more houses. It is NOT. We have to put those in a HOMELESS MINDSET into a HOME MINDSET if they want to experience what it is like to be at HOME with who they are. In my estimation, the HOMELESS have to be taught what a HOME IS. Maybe, we ALL need a refresher course??

IT WOULD DO US ALL WELL TO MULL THIS OVER A BIT!

---Of course, in MASLOW's way of thinking we have one who has his/her needs met. One who is appreciated and valued. Loved and supported. He's made to feel secure and important and encouraged to achieve. These are essentials to living successfully. The GROWTH MINDSET comes to mind.



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---When those needs are met, one easily reaches out and is very willing to support and respect others. He/She sees others as friends and allies...NOT enemies. EVERYONE BEING KIND WILL STILL MAKE THINGs BETTER!

HOW TO FEEL AT HOME WITH YOURSELF (CLICK LEFT)

Sunday, October 21, 2018

ATTACHMENT THEORY - HOW YOUR CHILDHOOD SHAPES YOU!




---It Seems To Support The Fact That Being DEPRIVED of Being Valued and Appreciated Early On Has Negative Ramifications Later In Life.

Wednesday, September 26, 2018

HOW WE THINK ABOUT WORK IS BROKEN - BARRY SCHWARTZ


---I think he is absolutely correct. We should do what we enjoy doing!

Sunday, September 16, 2018

The BIG PICTURE of SELF-ACTUALIZATION


---Self-Actualization is a term coined by Abraham Maslow. In my estimation, Leo, pictured above, does a very good job in explaining the whole subject. 

Thursday, September 6, 2018

RETURN TO - DEPRIVED and/or DEPRAVED!


RETURN TO
DEPRIVED and/or DEPRAVED




--Some folks have asked me to return to the ‘’WEST SIDE STORY’’ analogy. They feel that there is more to be said. The point to it all is the idea that for those DEPRIVED of love, support, being appreciated and valued…usually, end up living a life of DEPRAVITY. We, also, tried to define DEPRAVITY as acting negative in any sense at all, as it leads down the negative path. Those DEPRIVED of their basic human needs of love, support, being appreciated and/or valued tend to lead a life full of negativity. The RIGHT TOOL is DON'T DEPRIVE PEOPLE of this HUMAN NEED. It works much, much better for everyone...INCLUDING YOURSELF!


---It reminds me of my dad in the 1960's and 70's, warning about never trying to run the car on cheap gas. He said it will ping and eventually ruin the engine. Well, to save money, you use cheap gasoline. Lo and behold…he was right. You learn this lesson when the car is on the lift and the mechanic asks you if you have been using cheap gas? You have been caught with your hand in the cookie jar.




---ADDICTION works like this. We put the wrong items in the place that can only be filled by authentic things like love, being appreciated, etc. We run the engine on cheap gasoline that will eventually break down. We, also, find that it is NOT so easy to make the switch to a different budget. We are used to running our life with the extra money we were getting by buying the cheap gas. We have to now make ends meet on less money. We relied on cheap gas for so long. Now…it physically hurts the car to use it. The fact that it isn’t really the correct thing to use has revealed itself. The real need rears its’ head as it always does and you have found this out while using the cheap gas. At first it sort of worked, but NO MORE. It needs REAL GAS...NOT CHEAP GAS...to be satisfied. That area has been DEPRIVED for years. DEPRAVED actions (negativity) are the norm at this point. If the needs had been met right away, the path chosen for the life of the engine would have based on having the needs being met instead of the DEPRAVITY (negativity) based of that area never being properly dealt with.




--The quickest and the best way to get your needs met is to be honest with what you are doing. Using the wrong gasoline will always betray you eventually. To feel love, be loving. Be honest. Be proactive. Don’t just sit and complain how nobody cares about you. Spring for better gasoline as it will actually be the best buy in the long run. Be Honest and Be Well.




Saturday, August 25, 2018

DEPRAVED and/or DEPRIVED!


DEPRIVED and/or DEPRAVED

---We may remember the famous line from the musical ‘’WEST SIDE STORY’’ – ‘’He Is DEPRAVED because He Is DEPRIVED!’’ I THINK these words are very true and have weighed heavily on our society for a longtime. And there seems NO LET UP IN SIGHT. It seems to only be getting worse. We can reverse it, but it is going to involve meeting the needs that are still are being deprived to this day.


---Through the work of Abraham Maslow and others we can see that there is a basic human need of being loved and supported. We know that every individual does better when he is appreciated and valued. Despite his/her ability. When these needs are in place and met, the individual usually returns this behavior with positive behavior of his own. He returns affection and security with security and affection.

---When people are deprived of their basic needs of being loved, appreciated and valued…they act in some negative anti-social way that resembles depravity. If your basic needs for love and appreciation are met you will tend to treat others warmly and well with a positive spirit. If you are deprived of these basic needs you are probably looking for an outlet for this negative energy.


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---POSITIVE ENERGY IS SHARED BY THOSE WHO ARE NOT DEPRIVED of These basic human needs of love, support, being valued and appreciated.

---NEGATIVE ENERGY IS SHARED BY THOSE WHO ARE DEPRIVED of these basic human needs of love, support, being valued and appreciated.

THIS APPLIES TO YOU NO MATTER WHERE YOU MAY FALL IN THE HIERARCHY.

BEING KIND IS A GOOD WAY TO BEGIN REVERSING IT!

Friday, August 17, 2018

ARETHA FRANKLIN - (1942 - 2018)



Painting - Mark Campbell
(Art With Elders)



Monday, August 13, 2018

TALKING TO A VOLUNTEER!



ARGUMENT

---And, then she stated that she likes the way they argue. I immediately asked what she meant by that. She saId that most of the guys she had known had blown up and got very defensive every time she started to speak her truth and explain the way she saw the relationship. They would tell her directly how wrong she was. She said that they did not physically retaliate HOWEVER...it was nevertheless ''very painful.'' She prefers the way her and her new boyfriend...disagree! They discuss. They don't argue. There is NO YELLING. It's much better...AND more productive.

---I told her that this is the vision I have of many of the people here at the hospital. Residents and Staff, alike. This is also why I believe that PEOPLE, in general, FEEL LIKE THEY ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH! AND, it is at EPIDEMIC PROPORTIONs. Many people get such negative feedback when they express their truth and how they see things. They are told that it sounds stupid or even worse. Sometimes they are told they are stupid or even worse. Folks are held in check by one another and NOT encouraged to truthfully express how they feel. Someone doesn’t like it and it stops the process right away. Usually by yelling or an expletive or some sort of way. Most people seem to be in a semi-constipated holding pattern needing to express how they really feel.

---One can easily see that many folks at the hospital have never properly learned to express themselves. They start yelling right away as I'm sure they were taught. Defensiveness seems to run the show. To me...I think that it is very important to learn to express yourself. BUT, it is, also, important to know the way that you feel about things so, you know what to express. Otherwise, it will just be noise!

---Whether the relationship is ideal or not, it sounds that the arguing is on a better level than when it was all about the fear of speaking the truth. As we have mentioned, trial and error is how we learn. We hone how we feel by whittling away at the truth. When we are afraid to speak our mind at the beginning...there seems to be an error right out of the gate.


---You can learn that it is possible to express your feelings without name calling, screaming and swearing. This just happens to be the way that many think that it is supposed to be. A Discussion to many folks is another word for Argument, because that is what they know. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the case. There are other, more civil ways, to talk things over that allows both sides to express how they feel about the issue. It isn’t always a case of the most forceful who wins the argument. BRAWN OVER BRAIN! Usually, the winner is the one whose argument makes the most sense. But how about when both sides express their feelings (a constipated situation is avoided) and a compromise is reached meeting the needs of all parties. ALL PARTIES ARE HAPPY! Now…that sounds good. Be Well.


Thursday, August 9, 2018

12 ATTITUDEs THAT PUSHES HAPPINESS AWAY!

12   ATTITUDES THAT PUSH HAPPINESS AWAY

The 12 ATTITUDES - (CLICK)

IN CASE

51 MORE QUOTES


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''HAPPINESS IS IN THE PRESENT MOMENT''

Monday, August 6, 2018

HUMOR IN HEALTHCARE ~ GARY EDWARDS


HUMOR IN HEALTHCARE - MAKING THE BODY HAPPY!

Sunday, August 5, 2018

HISTORY OF NORMAN COUSINS


ANATOMY of an ILLNESS - NORMAN COUSINS

---NORMAN COUSINS was diagnosed with a terminal cancer. He decided he was going to beat this thing. He called in his doctor. He changed his regimen and began watching MARX BROTHERS MOVIES, etc.

---His cancer left him and he improved to return to his normal life. The doctors were astounded at his recovery. This happened some years back at this point, but many of his techniques are very life affirming to this very day. 

---He speaks of being hesitant to share his story at first not wanting to give a lot of false hope. But, it all has come out.

Friday, August 3, 2018

Monday, July 23, 2018

Saturday, June 9, 2018

BJ MILLER - TedTALK!


BJ MILLER WAS ONCE THE HEAD OF THE ZEN HOSPICE PROJECT AT THE HOSPITAL!

Sunday, June 3, 2018

''FEAR STRIKES OUT'' - The Jim Piersall Story


Jimmy Piersall


 ---Jim Piersall was a major league baseball player for most of his adult life. He mostly played for the Boston Red Sox. His life is chronicled in his autobiography and movie of the same name. It was called, ‘’Fear Strikes Out.’’ The movie starred Anthony Perkins and Karl Malden. Perkins played Jimmy and Malden played his overbearing dad. His dad spent a lot of time ingraining into him how important it be that he, Jimmy, become a Major League Baseball Player. Jimmy did but with many foibles because of it. Jimmy had manic depression, also. See how Jimmy suffered in a quest to win his father’s approval. See how Jimmy never felt like he was GOOD ENOUGH.


JIMMY PIERSALL MELTDOWN



JIMMY PIERSALL PARENTING



Thursday, May 31, 2018

ARE YOU GOOD ENOUGH?


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---Be KIND! Don't Make The Same MISTAKEs Others Have!

Thursday, May 24, 2018

The Primary Cause of Unhappiness - Eckhart Tolle


Worth Watching (even if you have to follow to YouTube.) 
Listen to first 5 mins. I guarantee that you'll be hooked.

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

WHY DON'T PEOPLE FEEL GOOD ENOUGH?

GOOD ENOUGH

---Many of us struggle with the question…am I good enough or are we good enough? It is one of those things that one has to be convinced and self-assured about. One has to know if he/she is GOOD ENOUGH. You will have to find out for yourself.


---Once the answer is truly known, then it changes everything. To know this one has to truly know that nobody is better than anyone else. Everyone has different traits in different proportions, behave differently with different attitudes, may seem more lovable or likable, are stronger and/or weaker, but nobody is better…nor is there a best way to be. The sooner we know this and act from a ‘’we are all in this together,’’ space and begin working as one, the sooner we will know this to be true.


---When we compete and compare with each other it remains superficial. We see people in accord to what we like and prefer. We may miss a lot of depth of character by staying this way. Don’t judge one another too harshly. Aid others in their honest search. Learn to find and how to live in the present moment. You will soon see that being GOOD ENOUGH applies to everyone. Be Well.


Three Articles (click):

Why you never feel good enough!

Do you not feel good enough?

How children see their parents non-acceptance!


Monday, May 7, 2018

AN OPEN LETTER TO MY BROTHER PETER!


Hi Peter,

---Everyone in this hospital and I would say that everyone I met hitchhiking and everyone in general are doing exactly what you and I  have been doing in our own way. What they are searching to have is a better relationship with themselves. Anyone who found something that they truly liked + enjoyed and were working at it, seemed to have a leg up on the rest. There are some, but NOT a whole lot of people that have found it (their passion) at a young age.

---I was in Charlotte, NC (1981) saying to God (this is something I sometimes did back then,) if you grow my fingers, I'll build a Church for you. I had a real revelation at this time. ''Healing doesn't come in growing fingers or anything like that. It comes in accepting yourself as you are, so-called faults and all.'' This really changed things around for me. Instead trying to be different than who I am, BE WHO I AM. And, when push comes to shove...this is the best that I can be. MYSELF! And, that is okay! My understanding of who and what God is matured in a big way, also.

---I found that that is basically why people appear so screwed up at times. It is because people really don't know that they are good enough. They don't know that it's alright to be themselves. They end up competing and comparing themselves to each other to find this out. They really don't accept themselves as they are. They end up seeing if they measure up to their neighbor. They think that they need fingers (or whatever happens to be their hang up) to complete who they are. I didn't and they don't! (It is the thinking that these things are necessary,) that is the problem! When one loves and accepts oneself, one never thinks of harming others.

---And, for those who act like they think they are better than other people (superior,) they are just compensating for feelings of inferiority inside. This is basically the boat we are all in. Be Well!



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Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Thursday, April 12, 2018

MAKING HOSPITAL PATIENTs HAPPIER!




---I didn't expect that their would be so many articles about the need to upgrade the happiness of the patient and the like. This has been so obvious from the beginning of my dealing with these situations. I am very glad that it is finally happening. I would like to offer any help from my perspective that promotes a better way of approaching the patient experience in a hospital. I have many insights and years of experience to share with others who may be interested.


5 WAYs TO MAKE PATIENTs HAPPIER

RADIO BROADCAST, etc.

HAPPY PATIENTs ARE HEALTHY PATIENTs

Thursday, April 5, 2018

Wednesday, April 4, 2018

SMART goals - a work in progress


The RESIDENT COUNCIL PLANs TO TALK MORE ABOUT SMART GOALs!

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

VICTORIA SWEET MD


''SLOW MEDICINE: A WAY To HEALING''


''GOD's HOTEL''

Terry Becker AND Planet Earth:
The SIMILARITY


---We must now realize that Terry Becker is much the same as Planet earth. BUT…why do we say this? We must realize that the same SLOW MEDICINE that healed Terry Becker will also work on healing Planet Earth. The only ‘’job’’ that we have in the process is…to ALLOW it to happen. We must put Planet Earth in the same condition of WELLNESS as Dr. Sweet placed Terry Becker and watch. Remember: a cut or a wound will heal if we let it.




---We have heard it put very eloquently by Dr. Victoria Sweet. The near fatal bedsore of Terry Becker was healed when NOT interfered with by anyone/anything. It took some time, but in an increasing manner the sore of Terry Becker healed.


---Terry has MUCH in common with our own - Planet Earth. It is also in need of a healing. And…the viriditas, the life-force, the god-force, etc., and so on…is right there ready, willing and able to do the same job that it did on Terry Becker - if we let it (and DON’T INTERFERE.)

---If we apply this SLOW MEDICINE to Planet Earth AND allow it to do it’s thing…a healing will take place. Once again…we have to let it. We must exercise patience and re-learn many things that promotes this condition. It can be seen as delicate as a pregnant woman giving birth to a ‘’newly-healed-self.’’ The recipe is right there…we just have to eliminate what does NOT promote healing. Take Care.

ARTICLE ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED: OCTOBER 10, 2013

Wednesday, February 28, 2018

LONG-TERM PATIENT FOCUS GROUP


The FOCUS GROUP – FEB. 27, 2018.

---Today we had a focus group for the long-term residents. I am glad that we had an opportunity to speak our minds. I would like to see us have more groups like this. I don’t think we even scratched the surface as to what we could have said. In my own case…I would have done better if I had more time.

WHAT I MEANT TO CONVEY:

---A woman mentioned that she enjoyed the groups that she goes to. I followed her statement with the fact that we should actually have more groups to learn different things. My answer was NOT to the point.

---I meant to say that we should have many more groups that convey SELF KNOWLEDGE and SELF-WORTH. We should have more groups concerned with REAL REHABILITATION as I see it. We should be concerned with teaching the resident/patient how to know him/her-self. Since we are concerned with sending people into the society/community, it behooves us to equip those individuals with REASONs TO SAY NO. We do NOT WANT folks to fall into the same addictive patterns…so he becomes re-addicted. We need to teach those who are on this track to learn GREATER SELF-WORTH so they are able to say NO to things that re-addict them and cause them to re-enter the addiction system ...and mean it. If we get to the root cause before this happens, we may nip in the bud them having to deal with another malady stemming from the same root cause that was responsible for his/her entering the system this time. The root cause is usually much the same in each  case – a lack of love and understanding. A lack of SELF-KNOWLEDGE. We want people to make more life-affirming decisions! MORE LATER…