SMART REHABILITATION

 

SMART REHABILITATION

 

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    ---We think we made a viable case for NOT being DEPRIVED of the necessities of life – being valued, being appreciated, cared for, loved, etc. We know that people do far better in life when they get these needs met. When they are deprived of these fundamental human needs they end up being DEPRAVED (negative) in some way. We assume the physiological needs of food, clothing and shelter are being taken care of.

---When people feel depraved and negative inside, they try to change that feeling. They deal with this situation by involving themselves in something that serves to ease the distress that they are feeling. The only thing that makes a difference and will make things right is something that creates the love and appreciation, being valued, etc., that is needed. Only these things will serve to make the pain better...in the long run. If he/she hits on things that are needed, than a positive boost will be experienced. If he/she heads toward things that increases self-acceptance...than those things will keep him/her on track.

---If what is done runs away from facing the self then the negatives will be experienced. The negatives come into play when one runs from facing himself. He is now NOT getting his needs met.  The ADDICTION is being born at this point. It will be stopped when he/she faces him/herself. He will identify the need and he will meet it. We wish to rehabilitate the whole-person and not just the half-hearted, band aid on cancer rehab that we have been seeing. To rehab the whole person, we should increase his/her self-esteem, his/her self worth, etc. We have to help him/her find a good reason to say NO...and NOT become re-addicted. He/she has to be convinced that there is a good enough reason to say NO...so, he/she has NO need to run. It seems that people have to realize it is worth staying sober. It is better that they are NOT always under the influence.

---Facing up to the fact that I have one hand was the same thing for me. Believe me...if I could face things I didn't like about myself, you can do it TOO. As I said, ''it isn't necessarily going to be easy, but it is possible.'' And, it is well-worth it.

---When you face things that you don't like about yourself. BE KIND to YOURSELF. Take it slow. You DON'T have to start with the most difficult thing that you can imagine about your self right away. It is like the rabbit and the tortoise. Sometimes it is three steps forward and two steps back. Go Slow...but remember you are making progress. This is a ''big one.'' Remember that Slow and Steady wins the race.

---However, if an emptiness is there, then we still have a problem. There is something NOT being faced. He or she will feel a hole within that still needs to be filled. As we said, this emptiness can only be filled by the right stuff. The correct stuff that is necessary would be whatever makes him/her fulfilled for a long period. It's important to be honest…otherwise the emptiness is still there and needs to be filled. For me it was my left-hand, but for someone else it, probably, is something else. What I did realize is that we all seem to have a negative attitude about something about ourselves that we are NOT cool with. Acceptance in this area would NOT be a bad thing and would open the door for getting the needs met.

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 ---When we are DEPRIVED of things that we need…that’s when the heartaches begin. We spend much of our time trying to do what is necessary to get these needs met. The more DEPRIVED we are is reflected in how DEPRAVED (NEGATIVE) we are feeling and acting. What I needed existed on the other side of the door. It became the Door of HONESTY. When I told others how I felt about my hand, etc., that is when I began filling in the emptiness about my own situation. I stopped DEPRIVING myself with this newly found honesty about the things that were real in my life and how I really felt. I began to accept myself allowing myself to experience many, more of the good things of life. To be loved, cared for, appreciated, valued, etc. As I said, if I can do it, you can do it.

---Anytime one is not being honest about himself and NOT learning to accept him or herself will still leave him/herself wanting and unfulfilled (DEPRIVED and EMPTY.) He/she will find that he will be making decisions that attempt to create situations that will try to get those needs met in order to feel fulfilled.

---SMART REHABILITATION happens when the patient   embodies the understanding that those experiences that he or she is feeling - valued, appreciated, loved, cared for, etc...are real. He or she is convinced that these NOW exist for him or her as they never did before. Things are different now. They are very real and this is now the way it is.  A complete 180 degree turn is NOT uncommon, eventually.

---SMART REHABILITATION works on helping the patient learn new techniques to feel more valued and appreciated. The patient is taught ways to make better decisions. The patient is encouraged to stand on his own. He or she is given new tools that help to bring clarity to his vision and see things clearly to be able to better negotiate his way through life. He is now assured enough so he/she can rely on him/herself to get what he/she needs. He now has the kind of tools to live a very satisfying non-addicted life. The sky really is the limit. Any limits have always been imposed by him or herself. Mediocrity is always a choice if that’s what is wanted. BUT, now It is NO LONGER something you’re required to settle for. Be Well.

WHEN THINGS ARE RIGHT...THE PATIENT FEELS WHOLE WITHOUT HIS ADDICTION. HE or SHE LEARNS THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO ENJOY LIFE WITHOUT THE ADDICTION!

WHEN THE NEEDS OF THE PATIENT ARE MET, THEN HE DOES MUCH BETTER!


---This a draft. I reserve the right to make changes as I see fitting.

HATEFUL PEOPLE or HATEFUL BEHAVIOR?

 HATEFUL PEOPLE or HATEFUL BEHAVIOR?

---When we meet someone we don’t like at ALL I wonder if it is the person or the behavior that we don’t like. If he/she is someone that is not our cup-of-tea at all, are we reacting to the person or the way that he is acting?

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---Put this way, what if the person that you just don’t like spent the time with you telling you that he has seen you before and was always taken by how wonderfully that he thinks you treat other people. That puts a different chink in the armor. He also said he ordered a pizza and he was wondering if you want to have some. Pizza just happens to be your favorite food. Suddenly we have someone you weren’t attracted to that is appealing in some way. 

---Now, we can turn this around. A person can act anyway that he wants. He can act in ways that we enjoy OR don’t like at all. He could easily be the same person in each case AND your like and dislike is based upon the behavior and/or attitude that is used.

---Have you ever met someone that you liked, but met him/her years later...and found you dislike him/her very much? Or, maybe it is vice versa?

I have found that people are generally the behavior or attitude that they present. As they grow you find yourself liking or disliking the behaviors and attitude that they use. As you grow, you find your likes and dislikes change, also. They seem to mature.

---We can see that people are changeable and it usually depends on the behavior and/or attitude that is used. And, we find some people are much, more predictable than others. And, also, when we find ourselves going back to the ‘’Golden Buddha’’ within us all, we find that the part that chips away is the very attitudes and behaviors that we are wearing and identifying with. The freer we are of that reveals the ‘’Golden Buddha,’’ within!

---If you want to find out more of the ‘’Golden Buddha’’ see the YouTube film FINDING JOE.

The first 3 mins 40 secs should be enough 'to get' what is necessary to understand about

 ''The GOLDEN BUDDHA!''

I recommend more if you're curious.

Scrooge A Christmas Carol 1951 Colour Version Alastair Sim Full Movie

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''A Christmas Carol''

''CAROL DWECK CREDITs EBENEZER SCROOGE''

---I’m sure that we are all familiar with this story by Charles Dickens. We have the penny pinching Ebenezer Scrooge having very little spirit or love in his heart. He thinks that debtors prison is a good enough place for those who can’t payback loans. He sees death as a way to deal with the surplus population. He is really concerned having less people on the surface (of the Earth) to deal with.

---The night is Christmas Eve. He is visited by the ghost of Jacob Marley, who was once his business partner. Marley warns Scrooge of his miserly ways and how he will regret them in the afterlife. He, also, speaks of three ghosts who will visit Scrooge this night.

---The three ghosts visit named Christmas past, present and future. They take him through periods of his life. It is revealed how Scrooge's miserliness took shape and strengthened overtime. BUT…lo and behold he saw the pain and suffering that he caused over the years, also. This was increasingly painful for him to endure watching.

---He has a change of heart. Scrooge learns a very valuable life-lesson through all this. He asks the wife of his nephew, ''can you forgive a doddering old fool who refused to see?'' He realizes that mending his ways and being more other-oriented Is far more the way to be. He changes from his penny pinching demeanor to loving others and sharing his wealth. He has now opened his heart and you can see the joy and happiness abound. Though this story is quite well known, it is worth another reading or viewing by those so inclined. Be Well.

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A CHRISTMAS CAROL

The THEME

---I’d like to share a theme that I see very often. It is the idea of going from selfish to selfless. I think that you have encountered this many times before…though it may NOT have been recognized.

---The famous book - Silas Marner has it. Old Silas was a miser who’d bury his money until LOVE came into his life in the form of a baby to care for left at his door. A Christmas Carol has the old miser Scrooge penny-pinching his way through life until he sees the error in that lifestyle.

---A baby going through the ‘’terrible two’s’’ encounters much the same. Actually, all rites-of-passage are for this - developing and transitioning into the next phase. If he goes through it properly and develops normally his life will be one of caring and sharing. If NOT a smooth journey than one may get ‘’stuck’’ and find it downright difficult to share. He doesn’t transition from the ‘’me’’ vs. ‘’you’’ to an ‘’us’’ space, easily. He gets stuck in getting his me space satisfied. He is still very self-oriented.

---The downside of this is that he never feels satisfied and never knows when he has had enough. The ‘’ideal’’ would be… ‘’me’’ vs. ‘’you’’ smoothly becoming an ‘’us’’ space. If this doesn’t happen, he is always trying to justify himself as a me. Unfortunately, one is a prime candidate for addiction - trying in vain to fill this emptiness by whatever seems to work. It is usually a ‘’feel good’’ distractor making false promises ’’to fill the void, but never does.’’ Ideally, folks go from me, me, me to us, us, us. When LOVE + KINDNESS of some sort comes into it, the transition occurs. When this doesn’t happen is when we continue the heartaches (the same-old, same-old.) .

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HOW I FIGURE IT!

 

HOW I FIGURE IT!

---We know how it all works. I mean I think many of us figured it out. I wondered why I haven’t seen the schematic around. Maybe it isn’t as out there as I thought it was. 

---To me it begins with a solid foundation. If one was appreciated, valued, was taken seriously, and really listened to (not made to look foolish when he may naively ask a question someone thought to be mundane and revealed how much he didn’t know.) This can be a real problem and do much damage to a young mind just by someone indicating, ‘’boy, was that a stupid question.’’ His outlet for his curiosity could easily be stymied by some off-handed, mindless remark that succeeds only to thwart the child from asking future questions that help in his evolving a more definitive answer usually because someone wanted to show-off how SMART he, himself, is. There are REALLY NO dumb questions, as they say! Only comments to questions that are completely unnecessary.

---When a child develops properly and gets his emotional needs met along with a  good, solid foundation of food, clothing and shelter, he learns he is appreciated, valued and worthwhile. From all of this, he learns to be generous and freely share as he realizes life works better when we do this. We learn how to be a give and take player on the wheel that upgrades civilization as we go. This keeps improving where we find ourselves actually going from selfish to selfless as we age. We learn we don’t have to compete and compare. We feel very, very connected with ourselves, each other AND with life itself.

---Here is where we can make a good case for DEPRIVED and DEPRAVED. He who is deprived of his needs being met will most likely act depraved in some way. His negativity, DEPRAVITY, no matter to what degree can be traced, as a rule, to how DEPRIVED the person has been in his lifetime.

---The fundamentals of life can be as easy as getting one’s needs met and can set a person on a course of fun and enjoyment. One should identify what his real needs are and set a plan in motion to get them met. The difference between someone living his life getting his needs met and someone who tries to live his life with his needs unmet...is like day and night. If one doesn’t get his fundamental needs met...then he usually spends the rest of his life and time trying to get those very same needs met. Doing the things that one enjoys doing so far outweighs doing things you don’t want to do. It can make or break a lifetime. Many people can attest to this as a fact because they, basically, are doing something they are NOT fond of doing. When one is doing what he likes doing, it is a night/day different thing compared to doing what you don’t like to do.

---When these fundamental needs are met we have a person with a good, solid self-image that can develop healthfully from there. When one veers from that course he starts catastrophizing and the negatives begin to oppose any natural growth. This is where the heartaches begin. This is where we will find life begins to unravel. Be Well!

Finding your Element by Ken Robinson / How to find your passion / Discov...

If you scroll down or go to YouTube, you find many videos by Sir Ken Robinson. He is very entertaining and informative. Good luck on your journey.

The ''HAMMER LECTURES'' contained in this blog is very good. Or you can probably find this book online. I highly recommend it!

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