MEMORIAL DAY TWOFER - OLD + NEW!

---Three minute video made a few years ago. It's called, ''CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY!'' it talks about life as a series of choices! As usual...there is a message, but the production is lacking.

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A KIND WORLD!

A KIND WORLD

 

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---If anyone wants a kinder world in any respects it is up to us all to be kinder. Kindness begets kindness. It works the same way that ALL else does. The Golden Rule, if followed,  guarantees it. If everyone is treated fairly, there is a good chance that he/she, in turn, will treat others fairly.

---The biggest mistake in this seems to be that we wait for the other to start the ball rolling. We seem to justify that behavior of waiting by calling it righteous indignation and play by the rules of an eye for an eye. As Gandhi tells us that through that behavior it will result in blindness for the whole world.

---Gandhi also told us that we should be the change that we wish to see in the world. Being KIND fills the bill. The Dalai Lama has told us that NOW is always the right time to be kind. It is difficult to go wrong with KINDNESS.

---Just be kind. Don’t wait for someone else to start it up. Bite-the-bullet, so to speak. Results will come back to you. Kindness is the cure-all that many seek. People usually AREN’T kind if they’ve received many bumps + bruises along the way. Many have been worn down. A good experiment to try is: exchange being kind  each time you feel like being negative for one week. You’ll see immediate changes. If you stay true to this, the only negativity you experience will be from the residue that YOU had set in motion when you were negative. Eventually, ‘A KIND WORLD’ will come into focus. Be Well.

UNREQUITED LOVE - The UNREQUITED SELF!

UNREQUITED LOVE;

The UNREQUITED SELF

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---Did you ever LOVE someone who didn’t LOVE you back? Did you ever have a crush on someone who didn’t feel the same way about you? This is hardcore rejection as far as I can see AND you will, probably, spend some time in the dumper because of it.

---At those times it can feel like you were kicked in the pit of the stomach…and you can’t see anyway out. It is very difficult to do anything else. This consumes, basically, every bit of attention you can muster. You spend a lot of time on different ways that you should have handled things. You spend much time living in the ‘if…only’s.’

---This is important to remember at those times. You WILL feel better, even, though, you CAN’T see it. It doesn’t seem like you will ever pullout of this one. As many of us know…that this won’t last forever. When you get back into the flow of things, everything will be better…EVENTUALLY!

---I’d like to say here that many of us are in that boat…we just aren’t aware of that fact. We have this thing called our potential, and if you are like many of us, you aren’t quite living up to it. You are unrequited in that sense. So, then you will probably say, if I don’t know what that is, it can’t hurt ME.

---I think there is a restless part of ourselves that is well aware of how we’re doing in terms of our capabilities. As the old saying goes…you CAN’T fool mother nature. If you are fulfilling what your purpose is and doing what is on target for you, that is reflected in how you feel about what you’re doing. The questions that arise are not ‘what should I be doing?’ but, more like, ‘I wonder if this is the BEST way to do what I’m doing?’ You'll be fine tuning and tweaking INSTEAD of being stuck on the major questions all-the-time.

---That is why I see self-acceptance to be so important. If everything that you do has the feel of I don’t feel I’m good enough to do it, everything that you do will reflect that. You will be asking that question ad nauseam - am I doing what I’m suppose to be doing? OR, better yet…am I suppose to be who I am? With self-acceptance…that question will have already been answered. The doubt that you will labor under without self-acceptance will negatively affect the quality of ALL you produce. Be Well.

ACCEPT YOURSELF - SO CALLED FLAWS + ALL!

BRENE BROWN: LISTENING TO SHAME

---YOU MAY HAVE HEARD THIS BEFORE. EVEN THOUGH, I THINK IT IS WORTH ANOTHER LISTEN!

LHH BAND

---The Staff played for the Residents at an S3 function. There were a few technical glitches, but we decided to post it nonetheless. It plays sideways for awhile. We apologize for that. It is corrected near the end. I hope you look through all of that...and enjoy!

THREE WAYs TO RESPOND!

Three Different Ways

To Respond To A Personal Comment

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---There seems to be three basic ways to respond to a comment made to you. They say that the weak have a need to get back at the person who made the comment. He sees revenge as his only recourse. Remember the different famous duels we have had in the past. Alexander Hamilton-Aaron Burr for example. Saving Face is a huge thing to some people. In my point of view...it seems very detrimental.

---Others take the stronger route and see forgiveness as the way. If someone makes a comment about you, you can always forgive them for they may be having a bad day and really don't know what they do. Even if it seems that they do...they don't. Most tear others down so they, themselves, appear and look better. It is really short-lived at best, but they don't really know any better. Forgiveness is much better than revenge.

---There is, also, another action that people can take. They can IGNORE the comment. They realize how any negative comment about someone else whether directed at them or not

just reflects the way the person who made the comment and how he feels. It is your choice how you respond. The comment is made and your response (whether revenge, forgiveness or ignoring it) is up to you. This can be an opportunity for real learning.

---You can take the approach that we learned from Mark Twain. MIND OVER MATTER. If we don't mind, it doesn't matter. If we do mind to some degree, then we feel we  have to reciprocate in someway. The more evolved we are, the higher the road that we take. We can either become involved in the drama set forth by someone else or not. We can take issue with it OR we can sit with the comment and honestly look at it to see if there is an element of truth in what was said. We can 'bite-the-bullet' so to speak, and learn what is necessary to learn from the comment. There is a good chance that what was said was NOT completely off the mark. Don't get lost in why the comment was made as opposed to why the comment bothered or bothers us so much. There is probably some adjustment we can make that enhances us as a person. Be Well.

REALITY CHECK:

Reality Check:

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1. Though some people like you…are you okay with the fact that some people don’t?

2. Would you like to spend time with people who know and like you or others you don‘t know?

3. Though you may be attractive…some people may find someone else who is more attractive?

4. Are you okay with the fact that someone that you may consider annoying, is more popular than you are?

5. Do you compare how you’re doing with how others are doing?

6. Do you want to be the best at something or are you satisfied with doing your best?

7. Though you are pretty smart about many things…are you okay with the fact that there are people who are smarter than you?

8. Would you be comfortable giving a 10 minute speech to your co-workers about any subject you choose?

9. Do you feel comfortable with other people all the time?

10. Would you like to spend time with others who judge you or others who don’t judge you?

---Are you aware that people, usually, are keying in on how you behave when they say they don’t like you. Behave in a way that best reflects the values that you want to see in life. Be true to what you believe and how you see it. We are all in this…together! Be well…and be good to one another!