SCROOGE - CHARLES DICKENs (1951) full movie above!

ALASTAIR SIM

''A Christmas Carol''

''CAROL DWECK CREDITs EBENEZER SCROOGE''

---I’m sure that we are all familiar with this story by Charles Dickens. We have the penny pinching Ebenezer Scrooge having very little spirit or love in his heart. He thinks that debtors prison is a good enough place for those who can’t payback loans. He sees death as a way to deal with the surplus population. He is really concerned having less people on the surface (of the Earth) to deal with.

---The night is Christmas Eve. He is visited by the ghost of Jacob Marley, who was once his business partner. Marley warns Scrooge of his miserly ways and how he will regret them in the afterlife. He, also, speaks of three ghosts who will visit Scrooge this night.

---The three ghosts visit named Christmas past, present and future. They take him through periods of his life. It is revealed how Scrooge's miserliness took shape and strengthened overtime. BUT…lo and behold he saw the pain and suffering that he caused over the years, also. This was increasingly painful for him to endure watching.

---He has a change of heart. Scrooge learns a very valuable life-lesson through all this. He asks the wife of his nephew, ''can you forgive a doddering old fool who refused to see?'' He realizes that mending his ways and being more other-oriented Is far more the way to be. He changes from his penny pinching demeanor to loving others and sharing his wealth. He has now opened his heart and you can see the joy and happiness abound. Though this story is quite well known, it is worth another reading or viewing by those so inclined. Be Well.

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A CHRISTMAS CAROL

The THEME

---I’d like to share a theme that I see very often. It is the idea of going from selfish to selfless. I think that you have encountered this many times before…though it may NOT have been recognized.

---The famous book - Silas Marner has it. Old Silas was a miser who’d bury his money until LOVE came into his life in the form of a baby to care for left at his door. A Christmas Carol has the old miser Scrooge penny-pinching his way through life until he sees the error in that lifestyle.

---A baby going through the ‘’terrible two’s’’ encounters much the same. Actually, all rites-of-passage are for this - developing and transitioning into the next phase. If he goes through it properly and develops normally his life will be one of caring and sharing. If NOT a smooth journey than one may get ‘’stuck’’ and find it downright difficult to share. He doesn’t transition from the ‘’me’’ vs. ‘’you’’ to an ‘’us’’ space, easily. He gets stuck in getting his me space satisfied. He is still very self-oriented.

---The downside of this is that he never feels satisfied and never knows when he has had enough. The ‘’ideal’’ would be… ‘’me’’ vs. ‘’you’’ smoothly becoming an ‘’us’’ space. If this doesn’t happen, he is always trying to justify himself as a me. Unfortunately, one is a prime candidate for addiction - trying in vain to fill this emptiness by whatever seems to work. It is usually a ‘’feel good’’ distractor making false promises ’’to fill the void, but never does.’’ Ideally, folks go from me, me, me to us, us, us. When LOVE + KINDNESS of some sort comes into it, the transition occurs. When this doesn’t happen is when we continue the heartaches (the same-old, same-old.) .

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HOW I FIGURE IT!

 

HOW I FIGURE IT!

---We know how it all works. I mean I think many of us figured it out. I wondered why I haven’t seen the schematic around. Maybe it isn’t as out there as I thought it was. 

---To me it begins with a solid foundation. If one was appreciated, valued, was taken seriously, and really listened to (not made to look foolish when he may naively ask a question someone thought to be mundane and revealed how much he didn’t know.) This can be a real problem and do much damage to a young mind just by someone indicating, ‘’boy, was that a stupid question.’’ His outlet for his curiosity could easily be stymied by some off-handed, mindless remark that succeeds only to thwart the child from asking future questions that help in his evolving a more definitive answer usually because someone wanted to show-off how SMART he, himself, is. There are REALLY NO dumb questions, as they say! Only comments to questions that are completely unnecessary.

---When a child develops properly and gets his emotional needs met along with a  good, solid foundation of food, clothing and shelter, he learns he is appreciated, valued and worthwhile. From all of this, he learns to be generous and freely share as he realizes life works better when we do this. We learn how to be a give and take player on the wheel that upgrades civilization as we go. This keeps improving where we find ourselves actually going from selfish to selfless as we age. We learn we don’t have to compete and compare. We feel very, very connected with ourselves, each other AND with life itself.

---Here is where we can make a good case for DEPRIVED and DEPRAVED. He who is deprived of his needs being met will most likely act depraved in some way. His negativity, DEPRAVITY, no matter to what degree can be traced, as a rule, to how DEPRIVED the person has been in his lifetime.

---The fundamentals of life can be as easy as getting one’s needs met and can set a person on a course of fun and enjoyment. One should identify what his real needs are and set a plan in motion to get them met. The difference between someone living his life getting his needs met and someone who tries to live his life with his needs unmet...is like day and night. If one doesn’t get his fundamental needs met...then he usually spends the rest of his life and time trying to get those very same needs met. Doing the things that one enjoys doing so far outweighs doing things you don’t want to do. It can make or break a lifetime. Many people can attest to this as a fact because they, basically, are doing something they are NOT fond of doing. When one is doing what he likes doing, it is a night/day different thing compared to doing what you don’t like to do.

---When these fundamental needs are met we have a person with a good, solid self-image that can develop healthfully from there. When one veers from that course he starts catastrophizing and the negatives begin to oppose any natural growth. This is where the heartaches begin. This is where we will find life begins to unravel. Be Well!

Finding your Element by Ken Robinson / How to find your passion / Discov...

If you scroll down or go to YouTube, you find many videos by Sir Ken Robinson. He is very entertaining and informative. Good luck on your journey.

The ''HAMMER LECTURES'' contained in this blog is very good. Or you can probably find this book online. I highly recommend it!

10 ESSENTIAL NURSNG COMMUNICATION SKILLS

 10 NURSING COMMUNICATION SKILLS

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The IMPORTANCE of CONNECTION

 

Human Connections

Connection With Patients

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To The NURSES and EVERYONE at Laguna Honda

  

---I would like to dedicate this song by the Beatles to ALL the nurses at Laguna Honda. I know that this song was written by John Lennon about a relationship to a girl he may or may not have been involved with. He may have found it applicable to that situation. But, I think it applies very strongly to myself and many others at Laguna Honda, also.

---I was very self-reliant most of my life and was very able to fend for myself. The bad times were the bad times, but I seemed to survive them alright. The stroke hit me in 2002...and I had NO idea what to do. I was immediately plugged into the system and ended up at Laguna Honda.

---People have been very good to me here. I love them ALL and I really think I mean that. They have helped me...so many times in so many ways. The song fits in, in so many ways, also. I didn't think too much about what people did who couldn't do the fundamental things that I used to take for granted. Well, I learned, in spades. They get - HELP!
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---The version of the song has expired. I, finally, added a different version in its place.  It is NOT the BEATLES, but I HOPE that it serves the purpose.

THREE WORDs THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE - Dr. Mark Holder

Three Words That Will Change Your Life

Dr. Mark Holder (5 mins)

---To see how this fits into our FIXED or GROWTH MINDSET. The three words are ‘tell me more’ or something of that sort. It shows that someone is actually listening to us and is interested enough in what we are saying to have us continue. When this happens…we automatically go from a FIXED to a GROWTH MINDSET with positive feedback from the one doing the listening. Being heard + taken seriously by someone has very positive benefits for he who is being listened to.