The BIG CHEESE of ADDICTION -
NOT FACING YOURSELF!
FACING YOURSELF BECOMES THE PROCESS of
SELF - ACCEPTANCE!
---The REASON for all addiction is the inability to face ourselves and our alleged short-comings. If we feel we are doing better than the others, than we don’t usually have a problem. Actually, we usually have no trouble taking or sharing in the credit for something deemed good. But when we have to face up to something deemed negative that we may find ourselves associated with, that is when our heartaches begin.
---Taking credit is not the problem when something positive is happening. The problem will show itself when we become associated with something negative. The problem is not when we face up to what went down and honestly admit the part that we played in all of it. The problem is now we have activated the flight response. Fight or Flight? Instead of facing up to the situation...we want to run. When we run, we basically say or do anything that dissociates us with what went down...even when we are caught red-handed with our hand in the cookie jar. RUNNING FROM REALITY IS THE ADDICTION.
---We RUN. We can involve ourselves with anything that takes us from being in the spotlight and facing ourselves. We even can learn to face looking negative in the eyes of another, but when we realize that someone has been hurt because of something we’ve done...that can be a hard one to swallow. We say and/or do anything that prevents ourselves from looking bad. That is when prison comes into play. We get off of the stage as soon as possible. People seem to have trouble telling the truth anymore. Saving face and dishonesty are the norm. Folks hide in the shadows, disguising themselves to NOT be recognized for who they are.
---This is the same dynamic that has caused life to be in the dregs that it is. Some have attempted to save face and promote this false self image. The unfortunate thing is that we HAVE RUN out of room. We can’t use resources to support this lifestyle any longer. We used them all up. We swept too much stuff under the carpet. We cannot scratch anymore. Scratching has now become a fatal proposition. It’s like completely painting ourselves into a corner AND it’s too painful to walk across the paint to get out of it. CHECKMATE! It has become a losing proposition, but NOW has an unknown of great pain associated with it. Telling the truth becomes the only recourse...JUST TO GET BACK ON TRACK.
WE ARE ADDICTED TO NOT OWNING UP TO WHAT WE DO. WE SAY/DO ALMOST ANYTHING THAT TAKES THE BLAME OFF OF US and PLACES IT ELSEWHERE.
